There comes a time for every wee one to show their personality and as it takes shape so they start to communicate to you, Some start with baby talk progressing onto a word here or there building into sentences as they grow more confident, while others are just wee chatter boxes from the word go.
And of course this leads to all sorts of situations when you are out and about especially if they have picked up a wee naughty word that you hear for the first time at the checkout of your local shop, Yep we have all been there.
The one I have to deal with is being called daddy where ever we go as she has not mastered granddad yet- this is not a huge problem when we are out on our own as there are a large number of older parents now-however when the wee ones mum is in our company well you can imagine some of the looks it draws and as you try and ignore it the more vocal the wee one gets ensuring no one in the particular venue you are in has missed it, sliding down the seat is not an option so you engage the smile and remind her that it is granddad now you might think problem solved but you would be surprised how many people are still judging my daughters choice of men!!!
As I said we have the normal progressions of communication and that is just a wee example of where the wee one conforms to the 'Norm'.
After that however the wee one does not follow any of these examples and indeed as with most things she does she has become very accomplished at letting you know what she wants and where she stands on every issue of the house day.
This is done by a mixture of words and sign language- The sign langue even matches some of the accepted signs used by the deaf! Where did it come from and how has she become so good at using it you would swear she was being tutored in it.
As a parent or grandparent you have a built in worry system about all things your wee one should achieve and added to that you now have timescales set out based on average to contend with, making sure that if your worry system was not stretched enough the average timescale is there just to crank it up to overdrive!
The pressure to conform on parents is huge and for those that go with instinct it can be a lonely field to plough as the support networks from the NHS are not built to recognise any other system.
However being an individual with your own wee personality and doing things at your own pace is just what I will encourage as their is a lifetime ahead of conforming during their adult years and they have very little freedom or time these days to be just wee individuals with no pressure-aye children.
And Finally
Papa bear the eighty something of the household has come out of his winter hibernation and is out tackling the garden and getting things in shape for the months to come. As happy as that makes me there is always a nervousness as to what he may get up to, you see papa bear likes to bash on without anyone else knowing what he may be planning and right now the measuring tape has been found in 'his shed' and something is being pegged out, the last time this happened I came home from work to discover my driveway had disappeared! I will be keeping watch this time and will let you know when he decides its time to share or I take on the role as site foreman in an attempt to get information!!
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